Truths: Part II: The Danger Of Convincing Yourself
We’re masters at fooling ourselves. We’ll take something broken and polish it until we convince ourselves it works. Relationships are a prime example. You’ve seen it, or maybe you’ve lived it. “They brought me flowers.” “They can be rough, but deep down they love me.” We string together excuses, trying to talk ourselves into believing what we already know isn’t true.
Here’s the problem: genuine feelings don’t need to be justified. You don’t explain your way into love, honesty, or authenticity. When they’re real, you feel them immediately. You know it from head to toe. Trying to manufacture that is like holding yourself hostage or pretending you’re free when you’re really stuck.
The more you explain, the less it’s there.
Takeaway: If you have to keep convincing yourself it’s real, it isn’t. Stop making excuses for what doesn’t fit.
Extra Credit: Think about a time you convinced yourself against your gut instincts and how that worked out for you.